5 Ways to Be More Feminine | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs
5 Ways to Be More Feminine | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

Hey, this is Mat Boggs, and today we’re going
to talk about five ways to increase your feminine energy. Now, whether we like it or not or whether
we’re aware of it or not, there is a law called the law of polarity in that masculine and
feminine energies attract one another. And we also want to know that you have both
masculine and feminine energy, I have both masculine and feminine energy. All of us as human beings have both energies
and we have been trained to lead with one or the other as our major dominant energy. And whatever energy you lead with in relationships
especially, you’re going to attract the polar energy to that. Learning about these polar energies was really
enlightening for me because there was a huge period of my 20s where I was attracting relationships
that didn’t work out. And after learning about these energies, I
realized, “Oh my gosh, I’m leading with feminine energy in my relationships, even though I’m
a really masculine guy.” And so I thought to myself, “Why am I leading
with feminine energy?” No, I’m just teasing. But I thought, “Why am I leading with this
feminine energy,” right, even though I’m masculine. And it dawned on me, the person who taught
me about relationships and how to flirt and how to talk to girls at that point was my
older sister. She’s two and a half years older than me,
is a great mentor in my life. And when I was entering my teens, she’s the
one who taught me how to dance, taught me how to dress, taught me how to talk to women,
but it was from a feminine position. As I looked at the relationships I was attracting
in my life, I realized, “Oh my gosh, all of the women I’m attracting were leading with
their masculine.” They were the ones doing the approaching,
doing the leading, which worked initially, but the truth is my major MO is masculine
energy, so we would either butt heads or the attraction would actually dissipate. So learning how to lead with the energy that’s
going to attract the type of person that you really want for the long term is key. These five ways, these five methods are going
to help you activate the feminine in you if you want to attract a masculine man. If you want to attract more of a feminine
man and there’s nothing wrong with that, then you want to activate more of your masculine
energy. Way number one, to activate your feminine
energy is to move into your body. Now it’s important to realize the difference
between masculine and feminine energy. And I do a whole program on this and so we
won’t go in super depth in this video, but I do want to point out this feminine energy
is not weak, it’s not passive, it’s not submissive; it’s very powerful energy. It’s just different than masculine energy. Masculine energy rides around in the daily
life up here. It’s more mental cognitive energy. It’s vision driven energy. Feminine energy rides around in the heart
space and in the body. It’s more feeling tone energy. That’s just one of the differences. So notice in your daily life, we all tend
to ride around our daily life in different places in our body. So notice, where do you ride around in your
average day? See, all of us, we ride around in our lives
at some place in our body. And most of us actually right around up here
in our heads, and we’re kind of stay up in our heads because we live in a very masculine
society. The work space is very masculine. It’s all competition, goal-oriented, efficiency. And so notice if you’re riding around up here,
you’re in your masculine. What you can do is connect to your body. Drop down into your body and start to feel
your body, feel your toes right now, feel your legs right now, feel your heart space
right now. And actually wearing certain clothes can support
you in this. Some people talk about be more feminine is
wearing certain clothes. Well, clothes have nothing to do with feminine
energy. However, they can support and activate feminine
energy by helping you drop down into your body. When you’re wearing sexy lingerie, you feel
that lingerie in your body, which causes you to bring your awareness from the cognitive
down into the emotional, down into your body. Wearing flowy skirts, for example, a nice
dress or something that helps you feel feminine is powerful, not because of the dress, but
because of where it brings your awareness is right down here into your body and helps
you tap in to how you’re feeling. So step number one is move from your head
down into your body. Step number two is after you’ve dropped down
into your body, is to notice how you’re feeling and allow yourself to experience your feelings. Making that welcome, making that appreciated. The masculine often cuts itself off from being
in touch with the feelings. Again, this isn’t male or female because men,
we have both masculine and feminine. When we allow ourselves to drop down and get
in touch with how we’re feeling, we’re activating our feminine energy. And that’s a good thing and you can do that
as well. So notice if you ride around in your head
most of the time, a simple technique that you can use is to several times throughout
the day, have an alert that goes off on your phone or ask yourself this, “How am I feeling
right now?” And check in with yourself. “How am I feeling right now? Am I feeling joy? Am I feeling fear? Am I feeling worry?” Just be in tune with how you feel. Just being in tune with that moves you in
the direction of releasing more feminine energy. Now, before we go to these next methods, I
have a gift for you that you are going to love. I have written an entire ebook on feminine
energy and I’m going to link it up right here. It’s The 5 Feminine Qualities That High Value
Men Find Irresistible, different than the qualities that we’re talking about in this
video; we’re just topic touching the surface of the wave here. So I’ll link it up in the video and in the
description. It’s a gift from me to you. Go ahead and click that link and you can go
deeper into how to activate your feminine energy. Number three dovetails perfectly with moving
into our body. How are we feeling? And now it’s nurturing yourself and ask yourself
this, “What could I use right now? Or what do I really need right now?” And then give yourself what it is that you
need, because feminine energy is receptive energy. Masculine energy is providing energy. It’s that we want to provide. Feminine energy receives. Feminine energy is your intuition, your presence,
you’re receiving ideas, receiving thoughts, receiving care. So when you ask yourself, “What do I need
right now?” And you say, “Hmm, you know, I need some love
right now. I need to wrap myself up in love or wrap myself
up in compassion, or I need to take a break right now, or I need to nurture myself,” and
then allow yourself to receive. Give yourself a manicure, a pedicure, a massage,
a day off, a day at the beach. The more you nurture yourself and you allow
yourself to really soak it in and receive it, the more you’re making space for that
beautiful feminine energy to activate in you. Number four is to bring yourself to the present
moment. Masculine energy is future driven energy. It’s planning, it’s strategizing, it’s visioning
the future. Feminine energy is enjoying the present. It’s being fully aware, fully awake to your
surroundings right now. So go ahead and take a deep breath and bring
yourself to this present moment right here, right now. Your experience of this moment, your experience
of life is so, so exquisite to the masculine energy. Masculine energy loves that. It’s often the thing that masculine men we
love most is being with a woman who’s feminine because she brings us out of our forward thinking
world, out of our vision world, into this present moment where we wake up to the life
that’s right here and right now, and the beauty that exists right here and right now. So one thing that you can do to help activate
this is several times throughout the day when you ask yourself, “How am I feeling right
now? What do I need right now?” And then take a deep breath of joy, of life
and experience the present moment. Number five is connect to people that you
love. Feminine energy is connection energy. Masculine energy is competition energy. The masculine gets fired up through competition;
the feminine gets fueled through connection. So make it a point to reach out to someone
that you love today. It doesn’t have to be a romantic partner. Can be someone, a family member. It can be a friend and just call them up and
say, “Hey, has anyone told you that they love you today? Well, I do.” Who in your life could use a phone call like
that right now? Make it a point to reach out to them, call
them, and you’ll notice that that connection actually fills you up and fuels your feminine
energy. So there you have it, five ways to activate
more feminine energy in your life. And when you do that and you activate this
beautiful, radiant feminine energy that you already possess, you become that much more
of a magnet for an amazing masculine man in your life. Now, I would love to hear from you. What are some ways that you have found that
really work for you to activate your feminine energy? Post a comment in the comment section below. And if you’re not subscribed to this channel,
take a moment and click that button because this channel is all about you. It’s about pouring into you, helping you activate
your greatest self, and help activate your greatest love for your life as well. Thanks so much for watching. I’ll see you soon.

100 thoughts on “5 Ways to Be More Feminine | Relationship Advice for Women by Mat Boggs”

  1. Priscilla Silva says:


  2. Priscilla Silva says:

    The hilarity of the title

  3. Priscilla Silva says:

    Ladies, please be your own beautiful selves and do whatever the hell you would like to, thanks for coming to my ted talk, have a lovely day ❤

  4. Connor Ward says:

    The joke about how you asked yourself about feminine energy made me subscribe lol

  5. Nikki E. says:

    The day I need a man to tell me how to be more feminine is the day I threw myself under a truck.

  6. Suz Phillips says:

    I don't care whether someone has masculine or feminine energy; I care about if they know when to be a grown-up and also when and to have fun.

  7. blessed serenity says:

    I want a handsome man like you

  8. lydia Smail says:

    For me listening is the most powerful way to express feminism, thank you for this video all the best

  9. D Woman says:

    I feel feminine when I dress in a modest but attractive way (not trashy). I let my wavy hair loose and just focus on emanating pheromones. 🙂 I do so by the way I look at a man, the way I walk, speak and overall carry myself. i love to explore this side in me because it's so easy for me to act in masculine energy since I am naturally physically strong, competitive and full of initiative.

  10. Ma Devi Sita says:

    Lol admit it!! Did you read my blog?! Haha. www.thesublimewoman.com is all about this same thing 😁🤓

  11. mcgeeSmith34 says:

    I've watched about 5 or 6 of your videos right now. I like you a lot. You're informative without being patronizing. I hope you know how much that's appreciated.

  12. Elizabeth Nanette says:

    This is so important to understand!! I feel like this kind of informs the whole “nice guys finish last” stereotype. It’s not that being a kind, gentle man is AT ALL a bad thing, but what happens a lot is men will be channeling feminine energy while attracted to feminine women. And then they’re confused when a masculine man- who may come across as an asshole, because they’re very powerful and assertive- swoops in and gets the girl

  13. Ronalie Cayme says:

    😍😍😍😍tnx for the info…godblezyah😇

  14. Louise Unsoeld says:

    I like men! Enough said.

  15. Nadi Blue says:

    my attractives : charity, honesty, intelligence,receiving love ;

  16. Mojo Jeinxs says:

    Ok if I am supposed to be all in the body and not up near my eyes how in the hell am I going to drive to work?

  17. Paula Nix says:

    as a woman, i desired the things of men to the point of joining the military and eventually becoming a correctional officer. So sad I missed out being a real feminine woman.

  18. Kelsey Burns says:

    Wearing lipstick

  19. Stephanie S says:

    I appreciate you! I absolutely love your videos! You’ve helped me so much! Thank you for everything!

  20. M Gil says:

    Trauma can get in the way of this for both men and women, but it's an excellent start! I appreciate the comment below which points out these self-care ideas are the beginning of making ourselves feel safe! I think a lot of women are using a more masculine energy to protect themselves…

  21. Evie Friend says:

    I like your videos. My husband says he loves that I am so feminine. I think I use my feminine energy a lot at work and that is why I do so well and I am so loved by everyone. It’s fun.. I travel around to different branches of the bank I work for and get to know everyone by asking about how they are doing and bring positive energy wherever I go. I try to encourage others. It works well for me.

  22. Polly the gamer polly says:

    F#ck being more anything other than yourself… This is bullshit…

  23. Evelisis Davis says:

    I agree!!!

  24. charleen hopkins says:

    i think i act asexual sometimes

  25. charleen hopkins says:

    i think this is about being able to trust guys is,nt it

  26. Stephanie Andersen says:

    Masculine dominated energy here

  27. Janice Evans says:

    Mmm… femininity… feeling good about yourself. Wearing sexy clothes, perfume, skin care routines whilst also moving forward with self improvement & work. X hope this is helpful?

  28. Przepoczwarzenie says:

    Im ill now, and i feel my throat a lot now… 🙁

  29. Przepoczwarzenie says:

    Sorry Mathew, you seem a nice guy, but i feel it's bullshit…

  30. Mariel Tader says:

    This is toxic thinking, imo, making it seem like being driven and a source of their own energy is somehow not what females should celebrate in themselves. The message could just be “everyone should be in touch both with their goals and their feelings”, since he says these two energies are within everyone anyway. There is just no need to attribute masculine and feminine terms to this. It could be “internal” and “external” energies or anything else that doesn’t police genders.

  31. Latisha Yarbough says:

    I just realized that I am much more feminine than I actually thought I was. Thank you so much💖

  32. CDGMR1 says:


  33. TaKyra Allen says:

    I am very very feminine. I guess it shows, people open doors for me, offer help, and treat me with respect. Being feminine is not weak. I actually feel more powerful. I don't fight for attention or whatever, just comes to me. I hope that doesn't sound bad. I'm just saying there is power in femininity.

  34. Brittany Crosby says:

    Please work on the audio in your video! I listen in my car and I either can’t hear you or you get super loud. I love your videos and would like to keep watching.

  35. Letícia Ribeiro says:

    Of course! Teach women to be feminine, man! 😝

  36. Letícia Ribeiro says:

    I have never herd so much BS in my entire life! Man you suck

  37. Linda Attiea says:

    Make up, high heels

  38. glenda peterson says:

    i’m so glad to hear someone else say that everyone has masculinity and femininity in them

  39. Mandira Debnath says:

    I don't know how many people Actually Get this.. but What You said Matt goes beyond the usual dating and relationship scene deep into iur energy level and psychologies.
    The concept of Yin and Yang.
    Energy levels. Intuition and sense.
    Just makes complete sense to me

  40. Golden boi says:

    This is making me legitimately uncomfortable because I have no idea what any of this means.

  41. hotstitch1 says:

    RaVen If you feel like this a great thing to do is to practise being feminine again in non threatening atmospheres. for me I joined knitting groups, gardening clubs; hung out with older women at prayer groups etc. All very female energy and real old values where the older gen will encourage you to be feminine. They will not want to hear about yr promotions. They will give you recipes and tell you how nice your dress is and nurture your feminine spirit. Its a wonderful new world!

  42. Michael Shrute says:

    This shirt makes u look like you have really short arms

  43. Sussy Liz says:

    Thank you for this ♥️

  44. Claire Foxall says:

    Sounds great Matt 😁

  45. Sara Dyer says:

    Thank you. My dad died when I was 15 and my mum relied on me to fill his shoes. I haven't succeeded in relationships and your video helped to unveil why. I have been bringing masculine energy forward. Thank you with love Sara 💖

  46. LoveofVelvet says:

    Damn Mat!!! You.are so HOT and adorable!!! Making me laugh!!

  47. Black Knight Fool says:

    Men have masculine energy and women have feminine energy. Otherwise it's gay.

  48. Nini Wakes says:

    Love this! Ive been trying ways to be more feminine never knew others thought about this as well! Very happy I found your channel

  49. surabhi Gupta says:

    Are you on instagram ??

  50. Lava Yuki says:

    I'm more feminine and much prefer guys who are masculine who would take the lead in relationships, are extroverted/outgoing/sporty. I can never date shy/introverted, overly serious or nerdy types.

  51. Judi Wappner says:

    I like it when men treat me like a woman guiding me and leadin and letting me hold their arm when walking together.

  52. Terresa Simmons says:

    Enjoying nature also called grounding. Our natural surroundings are so beautiful and when I take time to breath and notice I feel more beautiful and relaxed

  53. Diana Diana says:

    When you were shamed for being feminine as a kid and never taught how to be feminine, growing up in masculine energy and being told I needed to be more masculine and as a survival. I grew up around males not any feminine women to look up to, but whenever I tried to step into my feminine energy because I know she was in there, I was automatically made fun of and told I was trying to be something I’m not. When I know she once existed.

  54. Learn Mech says:

    For me depending on your better half makes you feminine. I've been independent since little, but people around me, even my family members used to say that they can't feel any feminine character in me.
    But once I met my boyfriend I wanted to became feminine and I started working on it and I got this feeling that once I started depending on him my feminine side became clearer.

  55. Soso Moon says:


  56. Soso Moon says:


  57. Soso Moon says:


  58. Styliana Sindall says:

    I am fine with being feminine until I get stressed with work then I'll be stiff and masculine for weeks (pardon the pun)!! I need ways to switch that around and get back into the present

  59. Catherine OMelia says:

    I do love to do all the things you spoke about ie a day on the beach, a massage, meditation, reiki, coffee and chat with a friend, a good laugh, wearing a nice dress, telling my adult children I love them, telling my friends I love being with them. Looking forward to meeting the right man for me and spending some loving time around his energy. I do love romance and all that goes with it. Catherine O'Melia❤❤❤

  60. khaoula kr says:

    For me: to be a good listener to the man problems , worm smile🤗, show my weakness in power even though am stonger than what I show !!! And the best secret I had learnt from my friends is "the power of a beautiful shaped eyes and how can attract man and says a lot of words without spell one single word !!!👁🙊😉

  61. Amal Abu Bakar says:

    Hi Matthew!

    One of the ways that I think increases my feminine energy is to Trust my partner completely. Just trusting him to want to do what’s best for himself, myself and our relationship really makes me feel sooo much relaxed and definitely more feminine 🙂 I also trust that despite his shortcomings and mistakes, he never meant to hurt me and that he has his best intentions at heart. I know that if he could give me everything, he would.

    Trusting him completely also takes away the frustration that I feel to ‘correct’ him and prevents me from feeling resentful. Naturally, I feel like I’m being taken care of and will always be in good hands 🙂

  62. S H says:

    Matt, you were the first person to help me really understand this concept and learning to be more in my feminine energy has really increased my happiness and helped me to reevaluate how I interact with the world. Thanks!

  63. Xx Milqtea xX says:

    Explained by a man

  64. Amber badass says:

    What if you cant tell….what if its mixed?

  65. Ji Li says:

    I hope to get more of feminine energy

  66. Ji Li says:

    Receptive energy is what I need….

  67. Barbaramoo Moo says:


  68. Doublepump says:

    If my friend called me and said he loved me I would probably just hang up

  69. Stephanie Van Driesen TV says:

    You are amazing! Funny, informative and very loving. Thank you!

  70. Elaine Duddy says:

    OMW… I recognise the voice… Mat Boggs is the brightside man!

  71. Nera Gato says:

    Based on this, I think imma just date women now

  72. average life says:

    I really appreciate how he approached it. I feel like a lot of times nowadays it's taboo to talk about the differences between the two genders, but it shouldn't be. We are equal but that doesn't mean we are always the same…

  73. Rachana Gianchandani Motwani says:


  74. Rachana Gianchandani Motwani says:

    Hello Mathew,
    What to do if you are a female with more masculine energy already married and then you want to shift to feminine energy, but your man gets surprised because he is habitual of doing and from our side . How to handle this shift smartly and smoothly.?

  75. Anne Anderson says:

    Buy her lingerie and she'll wear it for you. buy a carman electra dvd and teach yourself how to strip for him. wow … the power of femininity will drive him insane. play hide and seek.

  76. Sam Oyler says:

    It’s interesting because I work in a field that is very masculine by nature. It’s driven, fast paced and highly demanding. I’m trying to bring my feminine side to it and I think it’s really helped the way people view me and my work.

  77. absele ser says:

    I'm a Guy. LADIES? What is good/great sex? THANKS!

  78. Mery Ann Belazon says:

    I feel like i act feminine too but these boys just dont treat u one if you're ugly. Most men treat woman based on their looks. Example, i rode a bus first .i was wearing a dress and wearing a high heels carrying many docs, the seat is full so i remained standing.. And then there's a girl who entered the bus at the second station, she's very sexy and beautiful in a dress and heels too bearing none but only her purse and phone.. Then the man sitting in front of me, offered the seat to that woman while i was standing there for too long in front of him ugh

  79. Sondra Myles says:

    Taking a dance class

  80. Jessica Morales says:

    Hola! First of all let me tell you that this video is high quality info and humanity. Is a master piece of art (…I am being serious…) about how to be a good human being. Thanks a bunch for sharing so much integrity in this world of shape and form. Then, to answer your question, it might sound silly, but when watching some soap operas, I felt my feminine energy was ignited. Why? that is a good question, but probably it happens because in those shows, the genres are displayed more traditionally. I know some behaviors in those shows are not the best, but I just answered openly. he he he

  81. Stevie Knight says:

    Great advice. Thanks!

  82. Yesenia Salinas says:

    My mom is a notoriousely strong woman and i grew up to run with a masculine energy and i hate it for the most part. So this can help me

  83. Arachnid says:

    I am very feminine but naturally more masculine and competitive. All those feminine things I do, clothes, nails etc, proper rest. However weird men made me approach relationships from a masculine side for so long cause I was trying to protect myself. I still do it to turn away evil men but know when to let the femininity flow freely with the right people.

  84. Elisa Ramos Rodríguez says:

    I feel feminine when I feel sexy!!! When I smile and play with my body. I feel femenine when I take care of me, my face, my hair the clothes that I use. It should be something natural… a release from the heart!!!! Mat you are great. Send you a hug from Mexico City.

  85. Alyssa Key says:

    I use my hips whenever I walk, it makes me feel feminine and it makes me look feminine.

  86. Adriana Aagaard Sommer says:

    I find that dancing to flowing “native” Music really grounds me and makes me connect with my inner feminine barefooted goddess ❤️

  87. Aki Scott says:


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  89. Ash says:

    1. Move into your body (away from your head)
    2. Heart, Feelings.
    3. Nurture yourself, care for yourself, be at peace.
    4. Live/ enjoy the moment
    5. Connect with the people you love

  90. Jess Jess says:

    I just want to find someone that is stronger than me. I can tone down my aggressive and competitive personality when it comes to someone I truly like.
    I don't know if it's because I grew up fending for myself and physically fighting with my older brother. My last relationship it felt like I was always the one taking care of him and listening to his problems. Like I'm the dominant one and I don't really like that. I want someone who can handle me and wrestle me and win lol.

  91. Claudia Zavala says:

    Thank you Mat..!!😀…ways that activate my femenine energy: when I do my make up, when I send a whatssup msg to friends, of course when I'm in love, when I attend mass…😍….Blessings from México!!✌💙🙏

  92. Samantha Ramakers says:

    Thanksssss Matt!!!!

  93. Jethro Johnson says:

    I've got a big fat fucken guts it's not going to f*** it work if I don't go to the fucken gym first ok

  94. Ya Be says:

    I have seen your vids, but never subscribed. You are the first man that I hear accepting has lead with a femenine energy and all the mess that come from that. Now I subscribe. More aware men like you.

  95. Zsuzscsina - says:

    I feel feminine the most when I wear playful, colorful cloths 😉

  96. jennymil33 says:

    I feel more feminine when I'm around a masculine man…I can flirt, have a conversation…a deep conversation is better and hopefully it will turn into a great relationship and great sex and that definitely brings out my femininity because that's something the woman cannot have by herself which is ultimately a lifelong companion with committment

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  98. Something Different by RS says:

    Mat…u R incredible…keep the gud work on n going…🤗

  99. Alana M. says:

    Thank you ❤ You are a beautiful man ☺

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